> I know people who have put down a different number in the “age” field on their profile and then clarified with their true age in the “about me” section — the point being to not just get filtered out by the search function but also having the real information there in their profile.

I think this is the best compromise. If/when you get called on the discrepancy, you can simply (truthfully) say that you have no intention of lying about your age, but that you futzed with your profile for the purpose of search results.

Most of the guys I know believe to some extent in the “half your age plus 7″ limit. If the older men who message you tend to be in their mid-fifties, this may be part of the reason why. (55/2+7=34.5) posted by desuetude at 9:35 PM on [3 favorites]

How about adding eHarmony to the mix too, as they will match you to men in your age range looking for a relationship with women in your age range?

I agree that if someone would lie about something so basic, I would feel like I couldn’t trust them about larger issues.

Lie about your age in your profile if you want to. Tell them the truth and why you did it after you’ve messaged back and forth with them a bit or talked to them on the phone, and then ask them if they’re still interested. Read More >